Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Mental Meltdown

I think I may have mentally recovered enough from this week to write a post.  My in-laws came to visit for 4 days this week, and I was very excited for them to meet Fi for the first time.  We had previously had a friend spend 3 days at our house and Fi was great the whole time, so we had no reason to think it would go otherwise with Clint's parents. 

Boy were we wrong! 

I felt we did everything right, I brought Fi outside to meet them instead of them just barging into the house unannounced.  She was timid, but took treats from them and accepted some petting.  We got inside and it was a whole different story.  She barked and growled with ears back and tail between her legs.  We removed her and put her in our bedroom to chill out.  The next day Fi got more comfortable with Dan and Lynne, and we were actually able to go out shopping and leave Fi with Dan alone and it was totally fine.  Later that evening, however, she began to react again, which went on for the rest of their visit.  We kept her in our bedroom whenever Dan and Lynne were in the living room.

I had a complete mental meltdown.  I so badly want a dog who I can take everywhere with me, and hang out with my friends and family.  I could just see all my dreams slipping through my fingers.  It's been one thing after another, but I have to deal with the fact that she's here to stay, and we just have to work through it.

I have a consultation tomorrow with a trainer who specializes in dogs who are reactive/aggressive/have behavioral issues.  I am hoping she turns out to be responsive to my wishes for Fi.  For some reason I always get the impression that trainers talk to me like I don't know anything, or that everything is my fault.  Although I tend to be overly sensitive.

I will post updates about everything as we go.


  1. How did it go with the trainer? I know what you mean. I had similar experiences with my first border collie. He is about 99% cured, but still will have a reaction to something from time to time. I am not sure if it will ever completely go away, but I will keep working on it. So, I know how upsetting and stressful it can be. HANG IN THERE!

  2. The meeting went pretty well, thankfully Fi was very nice to the trainer :) She was pretty responsive to me and we're starting an agility for confidence class next week with her. I figure it will be a chance for us to practice working with distractions as well as learning how to socialize.

    I've got to admit, I was totally unprepared to have a non-socialized, reactive adult dog. But she's mine for life, so I'm trying to do everything I can!